For the second week of Ruin June, the luscious ladies of Femdom Fridays and I continued down our path of pleasurable ruination with a discussion on Impact Play! Before we hit the main beats of our discussion topic, we shared some history, facts and legends about Goddess Day. Our panel of delightful Dominae consisted of Becky, Bianca, Demi, Harper, Hunter, Kay Marie, Krista, and our Mistress Hot Seat guest of the evening, Hadley.

Goddess Day

Also known as Friday the 13th, Goddess Day is considered by many to be one of, if not THE, luckiest days of the year. Did you know that Goddess Day can occur up to three times in a single year? To hear more facts like this and learn more about the negative connotations, along with the positive associations to this somewhat polarizing day, check out the audio below:

A Blow-by-Blow Confab on Impact Play

Our discussion on Impact Play, described by some as ‘pain play with toys’, began with our panel reiterating the importance of consent and boundaries when engaging in any form of BDSM, kink, or fetish activities. Impact play definitely isn’t for everyone and if it’s not your thing, that’s totally ok!

For the interested and curious, however, I had the panel describe their favorite implements to administer spankings, flagellations, and corporal punishments before posing the question to the audience. Responses from the Mistresses ranged from open palms, crops, to willow branch switches. While audience responses included, but weren’t limited to, hairbrushes, paddles, and canes. Some of the better impact tools are to be found in the kitchen according to members of the panel and the audience. With everyone in attendance agreeing that the best implements are the ones that produce the most satisfying sounds when put to use in session.

Of Pain…

Goddess Day proved to be exceptionally lucky for our discussion topic since we had so many Mistresses who were/are well-versed in Impact Play! After discussing our favorite impact play toys, the panel and audience discussed the best places for a Femdom to spank, strike, hit, whip, etc. their submissive. Depending on the apparatus for impact play, any place on your body where the bones aren’t close to the surface of your skin is good to go! So, avoid the lower back, shoulder blades, knees, and other joints.

Per our topic material, the goal of impact play (erotic spankings, erotic flagellation, and corporeal punishment) is to cause deep tissue bruising. Some marks are ok, depending on the agreement between the Dominant partner and the submissive. However the intent isn’t to leave visible evidence of your session. The sweet spot of this kind of pain play is to create a deep aching pain that lingers. Or as one audience member in the chat put it ‘Delayed Onset Muscle Soreness’.

…And Pleasure

The pleasure for a pain slut mainly comes from the release of endorphins after being swatted up to/beyond the edge of completion. While the pleasure Mistresses derive from spanking submissives mainly comes from the power with which we’ve been entrusted. Once we wrapped up our discussion on Impact Play, I set our Hot Seat Mistress alight with burning questions submitted by our listeners. Learning more about Mistress Hadley was a most pleasurable experience and I can’t wait for y’all to re-experience her aura. Much like last month’s Hot Seat Mistress, Ms. Hadley will have a blog post dedicated to her grilling interview.

Until then, prepare yourself for next week’s Femdom Friday at 9pm EST in our Discord Server.

The celestial Goddess Demi will be hosting our next topic discussion for #RuinJune!

Yours Indulgently,

Goddess Meshelle