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Excellent. Welcome Craig and welcome Come Eating Man. And Addie.
And Addie, look at that. Welcome everybody. Welcome to Thumb Down Fridays.
You can find us live every Friday at 9 p.m. Eastern Standard Time in the Enchantrix Empire Discord service, but you must be 18 or older to join. And you can listen to the replay every Saturday on your favorite podcast platform. And tonight I have a special treat for you.
We are doing kink archetypes. I love archetypes so much and I found this cool kink test so we’re all going to take it together. I’m going to put it in the chat.
I want the audience to follow along with us and take it for yourself. It’d be very interesting just to see what we all come up with. So with no further ado, we’re going to jump into our introductions and I will start with Mistress Harper.
Greetings mortals. I’m Harper, the divine goddess. I have two blogs.
You can find me at fetishphonesexblog.com. I’m late. I need to write the next installment and it’s going to be Preacher’s Wife only fans because that’s how it’s going to work. I also have whoreschool.net. If you go over there, you can find out what the upcoming episode of Whore School is going to be about.
Whore School, by the way, is my adult sex education podcast. No fear, no guilt, no shame. But this coming Sunday, we are going to be talking about sexually transmitted bugs.
So maybe a little shame. Just kidding. I know, a soupçon of shame.
It’s mostly though how to recognize the symptoms and what to do about it and how not to spread it and also the fact that it’s summertime. If you go to the local pool and maybe you go to your gym and you get a towel, right? And the gym supplies you with towels. If they’re not washing those towels in super hot water, you can wind up with whoopsie, what is technically an SDI, except it’s also a just it travels on cloth bug.
So tune in Sunday at 11 p.m. Eastern Time live here in the Enchantrix Empire Discord to find out everything you never wanted to know about scabies and crabs. Excellent job. And what about you, Miss Hadley? It’s kind of hard to follow, isn’t it? Anything crabs make you want to talk to me? Listen, I had a friend that worked at a crab restaurant and they had a shirt that said, ask me about my crabs and they made their people.
There’s a place in Tampa that has these shirts that they’re it says the only place in Tampa that you can suck head and eat tail in public and not go to jail. Oh, let me see. I’ve seen that at some Cajun places.
Yeah, to get you some of their crayfish. Yeah, get in there. Get you some of that.
It’s good. Yes. Suck on that.
Their head. Suck it. Suck the head like the tail.
Oh, holy shit. I love this place. Back to you.
Back to me. I’m Mistress Hadley, regardless of what the rumors have to say. And I am right here as LDWHadley on Discord, the best place to get me here.
Or just email me. Hadley at EnchantrixEmpire.com. You may also find me on Twitter as Empress Hadley, although those fuckers are always muzzling me for something. They don’t like my pictures.
They don’t like my links. They don’t like that. Also over in Blue Skies as Hadley.Bettencourt, because as I like to say, I was not feeling particularly creative that day.
You can email me, text me, but I prefer that you call me. You just call me. Call me.
800-601-6975. Call me. Tell me all of your things.
And I will give you my opinion, which is my favorite thing to do. And we’ll go from there. Oh, also check me out.
Iwilldominateyou.com. I just dropped a blog entry on gender bending. I had a really transformative, amazing, sexy relationship advancing call with an amazing sissy slut. And I wrote about it.
And it is now at Iwilldominateyou.com. So check that out. Thanks. Excellent.
And what about you, Ms. Krista? Well, I am Ms. Krista, and you can find me at PhoneSexFetishBlog.com. You can find me here every Friday night and every Saturday night on Kinks and Drinks. I am on X as well. I am Krista in Chance.
And I’m on Blue Sky. I am Ms. with a Z, Krista. And I also just dropped a blog, and it is, the name of it is Sensory Play and Deprivation, the Delicious Duo.
So check that out. I’m pretty sure you’ll enjoy that. And I think that’s about it.
And I don’t have crabs to share, and I don’t have any other little creepy crawlies. So sorry to disappoint. Wait, shit.
Hold on. I mean, wait. Wait, what? Huh? I wanted to get to that soundboard.
Wait for it. Wait for it. Everybody.
All right. And I am Ms. Becky. You can find me at IntelligentPhoneSexCalls.com. That is my personal blog.
You can also find my other podcast, Kinkology, The Psychology of Kink, at KinkologyPodcast.com. New episode drop every Friday. And today, it was BDSM Contracts and Agreements. So if you have any interest in that, definitely check it out.
And you can follow me on Twitter at AsMsBeckyInChance, and that’s Ms. with an MS. And you should follow me. I’m fucking hilarious. And you can hit me up here on Discord.
I am LDWBecky. And yeah, I would love to hear from you. And let me just take a moment to recognize our audience.
We’ve got Addie in here. We’ve got Alex. Welcome.
Come Eating Man. Welcome. Dr. Spankenstein.
Welcome. Callie, the sweetest girl. We’ve got Ma.
We’ve got Prevarian, the cream-filled donut. And welcome to everybody. And I’m so excited about tonight, because we are going to take a fun little test.
All right. So I’m dropping a link in the chat right now. And audience, I’d love for you guys to follow along.
And we’re just going to start one question at a time and go around round robin. All right. So the first question.
When I imagine an intense encounter, I’m the one that’s deciding what happens next. Oh, I strongly agree. What about you, Ms. Harper? What about question number two? In my daily life, I’m the person who takes charge in group situations.
Yeah. Ms. Hadley. Is that right? Exactly.
You’re muted, babe. I love you all. Please come back to me.
I’m having trouble with my laptop. Can you read the third question or is it not loading for you? I mean, I could if my screen weren’t black. I’m working on it.
It loves doing that during femdom Fridays and femdom Fridays only. It does do that during femdom Fridays. How frustrating.
Ms. Christa, why don’t you take number three? What makes power exchange appealing is the closeness and trust it builds. Hadley, are you up and present? I am. No.
Okay. No worries. No worries.
Your name is skipped. All right. So strong physical sensations, impact, restraint, temperature, pressure are central to what I want.
And oh, you know what? I am a bit of a switch, so I’m going to say neutral because I feel like that’s 50% yes, 50% no. Ms. Becky, do you want me to share my screen? I love sensation play and it’s not really saying that it is that you’re receiving it. You could be giving all that, too.
Oh, that’s true. That’s true. Well, I already pressed neutral, but the rest of you can benefit from that definite advice.
And that’s an excellent idea. Hadley, can you see our screen? Do you want me to share the screen? Give me a minute. Watch this.
Hello. I’m guessing if she can’t see anything on her laptop, you sharing her screen probably would not be. I’m up.
What are we looking at? Sorry, I had to mentally check out for a quick second. I’m looking at question three. Number five is where we’re at.
On Discord, look at the squares, and there should be one saying, look at the shared screen, and you can look at that. I can see question five now. Yes.
Take it away, lady. Got it. My preferred role depends heavily on who I’m with.
Strongly disagree. I have tried a thousand times to switch. I suck at it.
I don’t try anymore. I am topside only. Tell them about your shameful Nina Hartley story.
You’re never not going to bring this up, and I’m not going to say that. All right. So all I have is my word that this is absolutely 100% a true story.
It did happen in real time. This is the way that I remember it. So as close to this as possible.
So I was at DomCon in Los Angeles a small number of years ago, and I was a presenter and performing on stage, and also on the presenter list was the inimitable, iconic, legendary, slightly hotter than the surface of the fucking sun, Nina Hartley. And she did this amazing workshop on the anatomy, physiology, and workings of the vulva and the female orgasm, which was amazing. And afterwards, I was at the time leading a merry band of kinksters.
I was the head of the board of directors, and I thought it would be amazing if she could come and do this workshop for us. I was also in Southern California, not too far from where she was. And so I waited until she was done, and I went and approached her.
She had talked during her presentation about how she switches, but she bottoms for butch women. And if she’s playing with a femme woman, a femme-appearing, femme-presenting woman, that she tops. And so I was waiting to talk to her.
And she turned and looked at me and looked me up and down, and she was just like, I was like, hey. She’s like, how are you doing? And she looked me up and down, and then she looked in my face and she said, oh, do you bottom? And my whole world was dancing on the head of a pin, but I could not give Nina Hartley, the legendary, iconic, inimitable Nina Hartley, a bad time. And so I had to tell her, no.
And it haunts me to this day, but it was the only way that I could respond with any sort of integrity. And even if I had it to do again tomorrow, I just don’t know that I could try to bottom for anybody, even Nina Hartley. So there you have it.
Do you want me to bottom for Nina Hartley? It kills me. Thanks for bringing it up, though, Becky. I love you.
You are most welcome. You are most welcome. Ms. Christa, why don’t you take question six? Being told exactly what to do by someone I trust sounds freeing.
Oh, hell no. There needs to be another one. I strongly disagree to, oh, hell no.
What about Harper for question number seven? Clear rules and expectations make a dynamic feel more real and secure. I mean, yes, communication is very sexy and it does help a whole lot, but I’m also really good at guessing because I’ve been doing this job for years. So it does make the dynamic more real.
It does make it more secure. It makes it more consensual and awesome. But also, I agree with this, but I’m not going to put strongly agree.
Because some people are just shit at communicating and they still deserve to have a good time. I don’t know. You can’t tell me what you want.
I don’t know that you deserve a good time. I’m just saying. Christa has standards.
I am not part of the Ms. Cleo psychic cock line network. You got to talk to me. That’s right.
Ms. Cleo. Yes. I don’t know.
I’ve had calls with guys who are like, you know, I want the thing with the thing and the other stuff. And I’m like, oh, I know exactly what you want. And then I do.
Oh, I can do that. I can do that. What I don’t like is the one I don’t like is the one where, oh, just whatever you want.
Whatever mistress wants. Yeah, whenever you do that. Well, what I want is a five hour ignore call.
That’s what I want. I want a five hour ignore call if you’re going to ask me whatever mistress wants. That’s right.
They never say yes. They either hang up or they suddenly have a better idea of what they want. Have I told you about my ABC syndrome? No, what’s your ABC? No, what is that? So like occasionally, not through, not ever.
So do not call me and ask. Not ever through LDW, but I do other things. And occasionally that involves meeting people in real life.
And I forgot what the hell I was saying. I got involved in something else. Oh, my God.
That’s so funny. That happens to me all the time. I hate it when that happens.
Go ahead and burn another one, sweetheart. I’m not even high. I had a point to make and then now there’s nothing.
Sorry. You know, my Meemaw used to tell me that when I would say something like that, and she would always tell me that if I had a thought, it would die of loneliness. And that’s what just happened.
Yes, yes, nothing going on over here. Somebody left the lights on when we went on vacation. I’m blurted out 20 minutes from now when we’re in a completely different thing.
Well, there you go. That’s what makes it fun. Go ahead, Miss Vicki.
I’m sorry to interrupt you. Oh, that’s okay. I just like the next question.
So I’m going to answer it. I’m drawn to things that feel taboo or transgressive. The wrongness is part of the appeal and I can’t more strongly agree to that.
Oh, I’m right there with you, Becky. I love it. I love it.
I once had a psych teacher that was like, listen, you know that feeling that you get when you spin around in a room and just like look at the ceiling and just spin and round and get all dizzy and everything like that. Well, it’s kind of the same feeling that you get when you’re drunk, but like nobody is doing that on the regular, despite everyone doing getting drunk because the wrongness is just part of the appeal. Yeah, my first lesbian encounter was all about the wrong.
Yes, yes, so true because it feels so naughty and decadent and you’re not supposed to, so it feels so good. You know, I had slap and tickle sessions, but the first real lesbian session, oh, that was with a college professor. Oh, taboo.
I love it. Yes, that’s hot. Why don’t you take number nine, Miss Krista? All right.
A partner you trust completely says, tonight I want you too. Which continuation appeals the most? Take complete control of me. I’m yours.
Hold me down and don’t be gentle. Let go, stop thinking, just follow. That sounds more like it.
Try to resist me, make me work for it. I’m gonna have to go with stop thinking and just follow. Trust me, I am a trained professional.
But just so you know, this says a partner you trust completely says, tonight I want you too. Oh, shit. I’m glad I haven’t clicked on anything.
Completely control me. I’m yours. There you go.
That’s going to be my answer. That’s right. I’m a don’t be gentle girl over here.
Yeah, I kind of like that one too. Hold me down and don’t be gentle. I kind of like both those.
Shit, I wish I had those two answers. True. Miss Harper, why don’t you take question 10? I want power exchange to extend into my everyday life beyond individual scenes.
I do not. I want the scene to be sexy. And then I want an egalitarian relationship personally, because total power control TPE in like a lifestyle sense.
That’s so much work. That is so fucking true though. And confirm, can confirm.
I’ve done it 24 seven lifestyle. It’s exhausting. Absolutely.
Yeah. 24 seven is a little much for me, but I on the spectrum of I do like to have some real world, real life control. I’ve seen it in real life to varying degrees.
And for other people, I’m like, I can see where you would be like other people might, it might appeal to them. They might be like, Oh, I really like this. I want more of this in my life.
That’s too much work. Yeah, I’m lazy. I’m too lazy for TPE.
I also need the break. I need the release of protocol myself. Like I need to like really connect with somebody outside of the power exchange at some point.
I agree. Self pleasure time. I don’t want to have to decide whether or not you can go to the bathroom at two o’clock.
No, I won’t go that far with it. Don’t come and ask me for that shit. For fuck’s sake, I’m busy.
I’ve had people ask me, they’re like, I want you to control what I eat, what I wear every day. I’m like, you want me to pick out your fucking outfit for the day and cook for you? Basically, it’s like a lot of work. Not a single maternal bone in my body.
I do not give a shit what you eat or what you wear. You can have fucking Velveeta breakfast crackers, and you can wear a Hawaiian shirt and cargo pants and fuck off. There you go.
That’s your uniform. With a pair of clear flip-flops. What the dude wore on the big Lebowski.
Barefoot. They can walk barefoot until the soles of their feet get thick and hard like leather. Yeah, fuck it.
There you go. Piss off. That’s fucking great.
That’s great. Hadley, why don’t you take number 11? It helps if I’m not muted. I want to set the pace.
Speeding up, slowing down, pushing further when I choose. That depends entirely on what we are doing, which may be a surprise. My personal division for that is bangy and bouncy.
Bouncy being more sexual, bangy being more kink, as it happens. If we’re bangy, yes, absolutely. All of those decisions are mine all of the time, period.
If we’re actually just having sex, because it’s not likely that we’re necessarily 24-7, you’re allowed input. We, together, are having sex without necessarily the imposed protocols. I’m going to go neutral on that one.
Nice. I like the neutral button. Yeah.
I’m going to go strongly agree. I’m in charge. Yeah, but you just said that you didn’t want to be in charge when they’re dressing, they’re eating, and all that.
Sex or scene, I’m in charge. Outside of sex or scene, we’re not talking about how fast you fuck. Well, if I may interject, but my thing is, I always, always hold at least 51% of the power.
So, I mean, if you’ve got 49 right now and you decide you want to speed up, I’m not necessarily opposed to that. But I absolutely understand where you’re coming from, Harper. I think Harper should take number 12, because I think it’s hilarious.
Her answer is going to be so perfect. I agree. Yes.
Yeah, I clicked through to it. I was like, people who know me would describe me as nurturing or caretaking. No.
Strongly disagree. That southern bell kind of comes out sometimes, so I’m going to say I’m neutral on that one. Because I’m a condescending nurturer.
I’ll take care of you. You know, you show up and you’re like, I’m homeless and I’m starving. I’ll be like, well, shit.
All right, fuck. Come on, take a shower. I’ll get you some food.
Let’s work on finding somewhere for you to sleep tonight. That’s not in the fucking 70 degrees at night, Texas fucking weather. God.
You know, so like, I take care of you, but I’m not all, oh, you poor thing. Here, let me take care of you. Take care of, not pity, right? Yeah, nah.
No, we’re just going to get this handled. I’m going to feed you. I would agree.
Which might surprise a whole lot of people. I can see that. People who actually know me, yeah.
I’ve got a very caretaking, but I say often some people keep pets that you can pick up. I guess it doesn’t really mean if a pet is an animal that you can pick up from a shelter. But my thing is always like, I don’t keep cats or dogs or hamsters or hedgehogs or whatever ferrets.
I keep humans. But if I had a dog, like I would bathe and feed and care for and walk my dog. I wouldn’t do less for a human in my charge.
So, including bathing, it’s very essential. It’s a very giving, caring act. And if you were, if I’m going to ask everything from you, I feel like I should be able to make sure that you have what you need to do that.
Not necessarily, not self-serving, right? So, I didn’t mean to hijack this, but I feel strongly about this particular point. I’ll shut up now. No, I like that.
No, I like that. I think that was good feedback. Well, see, now I think about it.
People who know me, they might. I’m going to have to go neutral because they might describe me that way because I do take care of people, but I don’t describe me that way. I think you have a good sense of when to let go to not get dragged, Harper.
And that’s healthy. Yeah. That’s great.
The dog just trimmed on the cat. That’s so gross. Baby.
You have a really, you to me have a really great vibe of I can help you with your problem up until the point it tries to become my problem. Yes. Yeah, that’s true.
Like I have to say behind the scenes, we can always come to you for help. Yep. But is that really nurturing and or caretaking? Or is that just like being a good member of a community? For sure.
And not wanting to have to deal with the fallout when we fuck up. I think it’s self-serving on that part because she don’t want us fucking something up that she has to go fix. True.
Just saying. I’m just throwing that out there. Smart resource management right there.
That’s what that is. That’s exactly what that is. Question number 13.
Harper really is a goddess for anybody listening. Harper truly is a real life fucking goddess. That is true.
I’ll take good care of you. And then I’ll kick you out. We’re done now.
Bye. Have a nice night. All right.
Question number 13. I want my partner to feel safe and cared for even during intense moments. And I was so tempted to say agree.
Except for, I don’t really, I don’t think that that’s true. Because I like when my submissives experience the full gambit of emotions. I love the fear experience.
I love vulnerability, which isn’t, you know, like when you’re feeling vulnerable, like I don’t know if you feel really safe and cared for during that particular time. So I’m going to say disagree. I was heading towards neutral, but.
I’m kind of with you on that, Becky. I would have to say that I would disagree too, because I get a very, I don’t know, some people say a sick pleasure out of having my subbies do stuff that’s way out of their comfort zone sometimes. Yep.
Point in case one of my favorite ones I’ve done in the past, I got to tell this because it is, it is so much fun. A guy wanted to come and I told him the only way I would let him come is if he went and got his girlfriend or wife’s panties and came in her panties and then put them back in the drawer for her to find later. Wow.
Yeah. But I do, I do enjoy caring, but I love that little devious part that we get to do too. Yeah.
I agree. There’s just so many times and, and, and honestly, feeling safer and cared for is a wonderful emotional experience. It’s not the only fucking one.
And it’s not the only experience that I want people to have with me. I want them to experience the, you know, helplessness. I want them to experience fear, intimidation.
I want them to feel like my prey. Yes. What about you, Miss Hadley? Why don’t you take number 14? By the way, I’ve completely lost track of the order.
I’m just picking people at random. Just randomly picking. The mental and emotional experience matters more to me than anything physical.
Strongly agree. Yeah. Yeah.
Even less than I, can I say regularly that my kink, so it’s especially people like anything you want, mistress, is particularly hard because my kink is seeing you fucking helpless and melted. That’s right. My kink is getting you into a headspace where if I asked you to sell your car and then loan me the money, you would, it would seem like a decent idea.
I don’t want you to do that. And I would never ask for that. But I want you in that headset.
And if you’re not liquid and drooling and willing to just forget your own name or how to spell it because of the state of mind you’re in, that’s, you know, like for me, that’s a goal to try to figure out how to do that next time, which is fine. But yeah. Yeah.
I agree with that. For me, that one’s going to be neutral because it depends. Over the phone, like the sessions we do.
Yes. The mental and emotional does matter more than the physical. As long as whatever you’re doing to yourself while you’re enjoying our session, you’re not harming yourself.
Yeah. Go nuts. It doesn’t matter if you’re actually following along when I’m like, and now you spank yourself.
Like you could just be clapping. That’s fine. It’s the mental and emotional that’s more important in those sorts of sessions in a face-to-face.
Like if I go to a party and I’m dominating somebody in person, it’s equal, the physical and the mental and emotional. That’s a good point. Neutral because it depends.
Why don’t you take number 15, Miss Harper? I shall. I can genuinely enjoy both sides of a power dynamic, depending on the situation. I’ve tried.
I’ve tried to submit. Really? Oh, I didn’t know that. Oh, yeah.
And I discovered that if I try to submit, it just pisses me off. I get angry. I was very apologetic because they were like, okay, now kneel.
And I was like, no. You kneel. You’re like, oh, I have to make you.
And I was like, no, that’s actually going to lead to a fight. We should not do this. This isn’t going to work.
Because if you try to make me, I will react with violence. Do not. So, no.
The first time I went to a kinky munch, I didn’t know anything about anything. And this guy was like, so what are you? And I was like, a person? What’s the answer to that question? He was like, well, are you submissive or dominant? And I was like, I don’t know. I’ve never done this before.
What the fuck? So, he grabs my hair on the back of my head. Well, my friend was there, too. And he grabbed her hair first.
And she goes, oh, because she liked it. And he pulls on my hair. And I pulled, like, straightened my spine.
And like, stiffed up and turned my head against his grip to make eye contact. I went, is this supposed to do anything other than piss me off? And he let go and went, oh, you’re dominant. That’s right.
Imagine that. Don’t try to make me submit. It doesn’t work.
Yeah. Miss Crystal, I’d have to go neutral. I’d have to go neutral because I’ve had some times that submitting has been very, very fun for me.
I can be a switch, but I’m very picky on who I switch with. That’s the secret sauce. Yeah.
You want to be careful. I’m very, very picky on. I do not do it with submissives.
Oh, no. Oh, hell no. If you’ve ever submitted to me once, you have no ability of ever getting me to submit to you.
Exactly. I might. I might be able to submit to a woman that I really liked and respected and trusted a whole lot.
And we already had a relationship. And we’d been sexual before. But that’s an awful lot of caveats to put on there.
So it’s like there’s this tiny, tiny edge case that might work. But if they’re male, oh, it’s never going to work. I’m sorry.
Well, I’m going to throw this out here. I will submit to Miss Hadley in a heartbeat. And I have submitted to Miss Hadley, and it’s fucking amazing.
Oh, I will. I will be her little bitch. I will.
I might even be Harper’s bitch, too. Just come think of it. I know.
That would actually be very interesting. I’m afraid I don’t get to do calls together nearly often enough. I know.
Me neither. Yeah. We need to fix all that.
Right? Yeah. Come on, gentlemen. Get on it.
Yeah. We’re counting on you. Come get it.
Miss Hadley, why don’t you take number 16? 16. The idea of having no choices for a while, just following is deeply appealing. No.
No, thank you. Yeah. They’re giving me like, oh, hell no.
I put a straight jacket on once. You did? Yeah. So I have this really strict policy that I don’t ask people to, aside from things that involve body parts that I do not currently possess, because who knows what technology is bringing next, right? So aside from things that I just don’t, I don’t have the physiology for, I won’t ask people to do things that I have not physically experienced myself, which includes a list of things that I’m not going to discuss right now.
Yeah. Now, the whole thing about having no choice, no. No, thank you.
No, thank you. I’m good. It was the deeply appealing that threw me off, because it’s not, you know, like that, that, that denotes a, a like for it that is beyond just like, oh, I’ll do that every once in a while.
It’s a nice little treat. No, you know, yeah, I’ll try it. I’ll do it.
I, I, I do enjoy it, but it is, it’s nice because it’s a rare treat. I’ve tried. It irritates me.
It irritates me that it doesn’t work. I feel like I should be able to have all of the fun all the time. But no, denied.
Vex is me. But here I am. Right in the top side of the wave at Harper.
They’re worse things. Why don’t you take question 17, Miss Krista? I prefer things to unfold spontaneously. Too much planning kills the energy.
Hmm. I am a very spontaneous woman. And I would have to say that I probably kind of agree with that.
Because, oh, I don’t, I don’t want to have everything scripted. You ever had a client ask you to do a script for a session? I have not. I have.
It’s annoying. So I agree with you. Like, I have, you have to leave room for the spontaneous moments because otherwise.
Yeah. If it’s just if you want something that’s completely scripted, go watch your everyday porn. It’s there’s plenty of scripts in that.
And it’s all the same. Agree. Well, Miss Hadley, why don’t you take question 18? Okay, question 18, sorry, answer 17.
Degradation or humiliation in the right context can feel like a release. Now, does this mean giving or receiving or does it not matter? I don’t think it matters. It’s not specifying one way or the other.
Because giving is certainly a release. Yes. Exactly.
And I think that receiving it is received the same way. I’ve certainly heard that after a really good session that it was cathartic and that things came up that were perhaps unexpected, if not necessarily unwelcome. And there’s a release in that, right? Because now it’s got words.
It’s got voice. And that’s powerful. So I absolutely think it’s really nice for myself when I’ve got working something out.
Sometimes somebody will get something they asked for with a force that may not have been there yesterday. But I feel better afterwards. So it feels like release to me, too, from the dominant end of it.
So, yeah, I strongly agree with that. Excellent. And Miss Krista, why don’t you take 20? What makes the dynamic feel most satisfying? Knowing my partner feels genuinely safe because of me.
The structure, clear roles, clear expectations, no ambiguity. I can’t say that word very well, especially when I’m half drunk. Sorry.
The intensity, going to places I can’t reach any other way. The freedom to be someone I don’t get to be the rest of my life. Well, shit, I don’t like any of those answers, to be honest.
I would have to probably go with the intensity. Right. Or actually, you got a not sure down there, too.
I just noticed the not sure answer. Oh, yeah. I think I’m going to go with not sure because… I like the intensity.
Yeah, intensity would have to be my second choice, I think. I’d go with knowing my partner feels genuinely safe because of me, because I have a huge trust kink. I like that.
I like being trusted. I like that they’re like, oh, OK, yeah, I trust you. You can, you know, you can do these things to me.
Like that. I like that part best. So let’s do trying new things appeals to me more than deepening a single dynamic.
Yeah, I think variety is the spice of life. Yeah, I think I strongly agree with that one. I strongly agree with that one.
Why don’t you take number 21, Miss Harper? I pay close attention to what my partner’s reactions. So I can calibrate what I’m doing to them. Yeah.
Yeah. Yes. That’s why the magic happens.
I tell so many guys. No, wait. I do.
I tell so many guys that are not doing, you know, their proper things in bed for their women. Just watch their response. If they decide that, you know, halfway through it, they need to light up a cigarette and not because it was enjoyable.
That they just need something else to do that. Maybe you ought to try something different. Okay, so what I want to do is get a blindfold, right? And do a whip scene with somebody.
Only I want to be blindfolded. Do you trust me? I like that. How much do you trust me? You do trust me, right? How do you like me now? I’ve totally been practicing.
No, don’t twitch. Don’t move. Hold really still.
Oh my. I do own whips. Like I have a couple of snake whips and I’ve done those at a party.
And I swear to God, people are stupid. Because I’m standing there with a freaking four foot long snake whip in my hands. And they’re coming up directly behind me.
Why are you in the swing zone? You’re going to get hit. No, I’m not. Okay, you’re a moron and you deserve to lose an eye.
You need to move. Yeah. All right, Miss Hadley, why don’t you take 22? 22.
I tend to put others needs before my own, even when it costs me. Within the framework of a kink scene or session, yes, 100% absolutely, strongly agree. I have a philosophy of the dom-sub sandwich that you may have heard me talk about.
Is the submissive needs come first, then the dominance needs come second, and then the dominance wants come next. And the submissive wants are at the bottom in that particular pie. Oh, I like that.
Yeah. I like that a lot. So that’s how I run it.
Miss, go on. Hooray. Miss Harper, why don’t you do question 23? I’m more interested in the emotional connection during a scene than the physical sensations.
That’s the same as before. I know. They wanted to remake Really Sure.
They stand by your answer and you’re not a liar. Are you a little liar? It still depends. In person, they’re both important.
Over the phone, the emotional connection is more important because I cannot reach through the phone to give you a spanking, no matter how hard I try. I’m going to say I am actually more interested in the emotional connection because without that emotional connection, we can’t do the physical part. Yeah.
Makes sense. You gotta trust me. I’ll take 24.
I like the idea of endurance being tested physically and proving I can take it, and I strongly agree. That’s why when I do switch or sub out, as I like to call it, I really like primal play. I really like that.
I like the power struggle of primal play, so for sure. Yes, I do. Very much so.
Just to take a look at time, we’re 50 percent through the test and we’ve got nine minutes left, so I think we should go a little faster. That’s a lot faster. It’s a lot faster.
So, Ms. Krista, take us away. I have a clear, consistent preference for one side of the power dynamic. And then Ms. Hadley.
I want someone to see through my composure and take charge anyway. No thank you. And then Ms. Harper.
Rituals, specific greetings, positions, and protocols appeal to me. Yeah, during a scene, yes. Excellent.
What about you, Ms. Krista, with 28? I want to feel overwhelmed physically, psychologically, or both. Neutral on that. Ms. Hadley.
After an intense experience, what do you want most? Physical closeness, holding, being held, gentle touch, space to process what just happened, quiet, to hear that I did well, that my partner is satisfied, check in on my partner and make sure they’re okay. Again, within the context of a scene, it would absolutely be to check in on my partner and make sure they’re okay. Sometimes hard as part of what we do here is that we don’t have access to that.
If something’s really intense, that’s just, that’s where it gets left. So within the context of the scene, that. Sorry, a lot faster.
A lot faster. The idea of a 24-7 dynamic where roles extend into daily life appeals to me. Now listen, I feel like this is confusing because I don’t feel like in order for roles to extend into daily life, it needs to be 24-7.
So I’m going neutral just in protest. Ms. Harper, 31. There’s something satisfying about watching someone comply with my instructions.
Oh, fuck yeah. Oh, yes. Ms. Krista, 32.
In everyday life, I am comfortable with conflict and confrontation. I agree. I am.
I have no problem with it. I like that. Ms. Hadley.
Aftercare, holding, talking, reconnecting after intensity is essential to me. As essential as it can be in this context in real life, strongly agree. Here, I would say agree.
I like to hear you’re all right. And then a single well-chosen word can affect me more than any physical sensation. Moist.
I like that word. God, I hate that word. Yeah, I like that word.
I’m going to say… I’m not a cake. Agree. Yeah.
All right. And then Ms. Harper. I sometimes feel dominant and sometimes submissive.
I both feel authentically me. No. All right.
And then how about Ms. Krista? I want to be useful to someone. Serving well, it’s its own reward. I don’t know.
I’m going to go neutral on that one. I am going neutral too, just because I feel like as dominance that that is true too. Yeah.
For sure, if you say no, does that mean we’re useless? No, thank you. Sorry, much faster. Hadley.
Yeah, Hadley, go for it. I like when a dynamic has room to surprise both of us. Strongly agree.
Excellent. Harper. I’m attracted to dynamics where tenderness and power coexist.
Yeah, it can’t all be harsh all the time. That’s the hybrid mistress. That’s right.
Kink is an activity I enjoy separate from my core identity. I disagree. What question are you on? I just… 42.
I just hit 31. We’re on 39. Yeah.
Which scenario pulls you in most strongly? I wondered about that because I was on a different question than… Go, Miss Hadley. Okay, I’ll just do it. Which scenario pulls you in most strongly? You’re kneeling.
Your partner lifts your chin, looks you in the eye and says, good. You’re pinning someone down. They’re struggling but they’re smiling.
You’re blindfolded. You have no idea what’s coming next. You don’t want to know.
You’re giving instructions. Your partner follows each one precisely without hesitation. Pinning someone down, struggling but smiling.
If we have a trust dynamic, if I don’t know you that well, you’re following everything precisely without hesitation. But I’m going to go pinning someone down because wrestling is fun. And I tell you what, why don’t we take the next minute or two to go through and click the rest of the questions? Does that sound like a plan? Sure.
Excellent. And I want you to follow along at home. I hope you guys have been taking the test as well.
This is delightful. I know, I want us to get to the results for sure. Yeah.
These are fun questions. Okay. Calculating your archetype.
Oh, excellent. I’m a sovereign, commanding authority. Power expressed through presence and structure with guardian tendencies.
Okay. Yeah, me too. What’s your deal with that? Oh, yeah.
We’ll have to do another episode where we go over what the archetypes mean. I am a sovereign as well. I’m a shapeshifter.
Yeah, you are. Isn’t that fun? Switch. And actually, if you want, we’ve got, well, no, we don’t have just enough time.
I was going to say we’ve got just enough time to go through the things, but I’d like to see what the audience got. You got a shapeshifter too, Dr. S? I love that. Oh, the abyss.
Oh, that’s fun. That’s right. We can do any roleplay, Dr. S. I love it.
Shapeshifter, come eating man. I love that. I love that.
Well, I hope you guys had fun with this. I had a great time with it. I loved it.
I had a fun time. I like being a shapeshifter. It makes me feel powerful.
Lots of really, really good conversation. I like you being a shapeshifter. We did have great conversation throughout this.
I regret nothing. Oh, somebody’s a guardian trickster. Addie.
Oh, hi, hi. Addie says, you know, a bunch of meanies. I’m an angel.
You’re a trickster and you know it. All right. So before we go, do we have any announcements? We have a big special event that’s going to be happening, but I can’t tell you what it is or when it’s going to happen, but you’re going to love it.
That’s perfect. I just posted a new blog post. I will dominate you.com on gender bending.
We’re going to be talking about that a lot this next week or so. Oh, join Whore School on Sunday. We’re going to talk about sexually transmitted bugs.
And I’m sorry, but I will be giggling through the entire episode. Don’t miss the scabies. Yeah, join me tomorrow.
I am going to be discussing whether the term gender is outdated or not. And sharing personal fun pride events. I like that.
And then I just dropped an episode BDSM contracts and agreements. And I just so happen to have submissive contracts in the store at phonesexassignments.com. Um, I find contracts and agreements to be a really, really excellent way to create communication and clarity and connection in a dynamic. So if that’s something that you’re interested in, hit me up.
We can talk about it. And thank you guys all for coming out to Femdom Fridays. You can find us live every Friday night at 9pm in the Enchantrix Empire Discord server.
But again, you do have to be 18 or older to join. And you can listen to the replay on Saturday on your favorite podcast platform. Due to Miss Harper being so very quick and getting those episodes up.
Snippity snappity. Super speedy. All right.
Well, thank you guys all for coming. I had a great time with you tonight. Good night.
Bye. Good night. Everybody have a good one.
Thanks, everybody. Good night.
