Listen to “Submissive Benefits” on Spreaker.
Also, darling, I am pretty confident in my skills about you ladies as you should be yet girls. Well, since Miss Becky has not yet joined us tonight. Introductory thing.
Not it. Not it. Not it.
I’ll do it. Y’all know me. I love singing for you guys.
Do it up, girl. Well, I would like to welcome everyone to femdom Fridays, you can find us live every Friday night at 9pm Eastern Standard Time on the Enchantrix Empire discord server, but you must be 18 or older to join. Listen to the replay every Saturday on your favorite podcast platform.
Hello, come eating man. Hello flounder good to see that you were able to make it and find your way here. Hey there giggle sluts.
Hello Callie the sweet girl. Hey there Mayor Mott. Hello mint.
Good evening to you, prisoner, and hi there sitting bull. I hope everybody’s weekend is getting off to a good start. How was your weekend starting off ladies.
Fantastic. Great. You ever have too many orgasms.
Oh, I don’t think that that’s kind of like saying you have too many millions of dollars. Right. Yeah, no.
I’m, I’m tired I’m exhausted I’m slightly dehydrated. But, you know, oh I like for variants new avatar Look at that. Oh, the, the clown France.
Look at that. Nice. For all of those who have claustrophobia.
Don’t look at his avatar. I know a woman with it so bad she can’t look at clown shoes. Sounds like there’s a joke in there someplace but there isn’t.
Also, Harper be very very careful I recently spoke to a woman who said that she was in bed once and pulled a rib. Yeah. An entire rib.
My God, from all the masturbating. If your toy falls off the bed and you reach for it wrong. You dislocate your rib.
It like goes vibrating across the floor and you’re trying to grab it without getting out of bed. I mean, I don’t know. Bad things can happen.
Horrible things. Like sounds like double loud because it’s on the hardboard floor. Oh, yes.
Actually, I, I, I did that the other day. I dropped my dummy while it was running. And oh, my God, that thing was.
Say that again. The other day, I left it on and somebody, one of my girlfriends, thought that maybe I was playing with it. And it was on my desk.
And she turned it on. I’m trying to figure out where the fuck is that noise coming from. Oh, yeah.
A dummy on wood just sounds insane. It does. On the soundboard like ASAP.
I might have to do that. I can, I can definitely get that together. Dummy on wood.
Matter of fact, we did that this morning. Miss Hadley, we put Tommy on wood. It was a little.
But it was still would. It was just a little guy. It was in a supporting role.
Yes. Hey there, Addy. So good to see you.
Ladies, would you like to go around and introduce ourselves and let everyone know where they can find us? Starting with Miss Bianca. Hello, I’m Miss Bianca, a cock dom over at KinkyPhoneFantasy.com. You’ll catch me here in Discord at LZWBianca. Always feel free to email me, Bianca at EnchantrixEmpire.com. I also have a questionnaire on my blog, KinkyPhoneFantasy.com. If you’d like to get to know me and tell me a little bit about yourself before we talk, I’d love that.
Yes, hit her up and fill out that questionnaire, you guys, especially if you’re interested in a session. Thank you. Since we’re missing Miss Becky, we will go alphabetically to Miss Hadley.
Hello. Thank you for being so awesome. If you can hear my voice, you’re awesome.
I am LZWHadley right here on Discord, which is a great place to find me. You can also email me, Hadley at EnchantrixEmpire.com. And I will get back to you as soon as I’m able. I’m also over at Twitter as EmpressHadley.
And I poke around a little bit on Blue Sky Social, but not a lot. You’re better off finding me on Discord or emailing me, or just call. One of the many hundreds of numbers that Harper can tell us, but I prefer 800-601-6975.
Also over at IWillDominateYou.com. And you should come check me out. I’ve got a point of view. Thank you.
Lovely, gal. Hey there, GZHead. We see you just popping into the chat, into the session.
Thank you so much for joining us tonight. Miss Harper, would you mind introducing yourself and letting everyone know where they can find you? Hey, I am Harper. I’ve decided that it is hot as fuck.
But that’s no reason for us not to make it even hotter in August. We’re going to turn up the heat. You can find me at FetishPhoneSexBlog.
I also have a podcast, Whore School. You will learn that is a threat. I’m also deeply involved in the Sissy Pageant.
Please check that out. You can go to the Daily Cock blog and find all the details. I expect to see every one of you prancing around in some panties for the Sissy Pageant one way or another.
Oh, and you can email me, et cetera, et cetera. Yes. I see Becky.
She made it! Becky! I’m so sorry I was late. Hey, better late than never. Better late than pregnant.
Yeah. You can say that again for sure. What’s up, besties? How’s everyone doing? Oh, so happy you’re here.
Did we get introductions for everyone? No. Just starting. Okay.
Me and Bianca. And Harper. Take it away.
And Harper have done our thing. Yes. Actually, who is up next? Actually, Miss Becky, do you mind letting us know where we can find you since you’re our hostess tonight? Certainly.
So you can find me at Intelligent Phone Sex Call. Oh, no, where’d she go? Oh, no, we lost you. Oh, can you hear me? Yes, we can.
Okay. Hi. Sorry about that.
So you can find Kinkology, the psychology of kink, which is my other podcast. Oh, she’s gone away again. Uh-oh.
Did you lose me again? Yeah. Are you teasing us? Is this a scene? Is this a session? Am I harboring you guys? You little tease. Well, those two places will lead you.
All places lead to Rome. I’m everywhere. You’ll find me.
Yes, an ethereal vapor is what you are. Surrounding us at all times. Magical, mystical, mysterious Becky.
Yes, yes. Miss Krista, would you mind letting everyone know where they can find you? Certainly. I am Miss Krista, and you can find me on my blog at PhoneSexFetishBlog.com. You can also find me on Saturdays at Kinks and Drinks.
And guess what, guys? I actually have a new blog from Kinks and Drinks. Woo! Yeah. Yay.
And I got it like half-assed up. And it is KinksTheLetterAndDrinks.com. And you can find me here on Discord. I am KristaEnchantsOnTheDevil’sPlayground, which is Twitter or X, whatever you want to call it.
And that should get you to where you can find me. I also do a drink every week. And this week, it’s a pretty simple drink, but it is really, really good.
It is a, I’m using Martell Cordon Bleu Cognac, which is a, it’s pretty good cognac. And then you mix it with Disaronno. And it is really, really good.
And I am dropping it now. Thank you, ma’am. Yep.
And Miss Sasha, can you let us know where we can find you? Thank you for the lesson. Absolutely. Okay, well, first of all, I’ll just stress that my name is spelled S-A-S-C-H-A.
If you don’t have that C in there, you won’t be able to find me. I have a blog at kinkblogger.com. You can email me at sasha at enchantrixempire.com. I’m over at Twitter slash X as Sasha Enchants. Same at Blue Sky, Sasha Enchants.
And let me see. Oh, yes, I am here on the LDW server on Discord as LDW Sasha over at Enchantrix Empire. I am at Sasha.
I am also signed up to take part in the Sissy Pageant that’s coming up. And I am really looking forward to seeing everything that you guys decide to do there. I hope you all take part.
Yes, join, join. We would love to see you. Here’s the link for the Sissy Pageant if you guys need more information.
And I am your Melodious Divine Master Matrix Goddess Michelle. You can find me on themastermatrix.com. You can also find me over on X at T-H-E-E, The Divine Me, as well as on Blue Sky. I share a lot of retro gaming content over on Blue Sky.
It is heaven over there with the retro gaming geeks. Join me. Let’s have a geeky time.
Also, you can… Thanks, Eagle Slut. Mattress Matrix, love it. You can also connect with me here on Discord at LDWMichelle.
Just make sure that you approach me respectfully because I do like turning, you know, smacking a soft ass. Don’t give me a reason. I will do it.
Miss Becky, I will turn things over to you. We need to let Cat introduce herself, too. That’s right, Miss Catherine.
I’ve got some credentials to share of yours, so please do. Let us know where we can find you. Well, hello.
I am at Mistress Cat LDW on X and on Blue Sky. And over here, LDWCat. And I am also participating in the Sissy Pageant for the very first time.
And I am looking forward to seeing all of our lovely sissies show up and show out. I want to see some real cute outfits. Yes.
And Miss Becky, the floor is yours, ma’am. Excellent. And thank you so much for jumping in.
Just so you guys know, I’ve been complete and total fuck off today. So, yeah, my apologies for being late. But tonight, I really wanted to pour into.
Oh, no. Pour into breaking out. I am.
Oh, no. Tell you what, I’m going to try leaving and starting my computer again. That’s cool.
We’ll just talk shit about you while you’re gone. Yeah, we’re going to talk smack about you. We might even type it so you can read it later.
Yes, let’s do that. Yeah. Nice.
Well, I’m going to fill in right quick. And I’m going to I’m going to read something that I wrote that is very pertinent to tonight’s show. Yeah, she doesn’t have to threaten him.
She doesn’t control him by yelling and screaming. She controls him with a calm, quiet authority, gracefully, elegantly, effortlessly. When a sub gives control to his mistress, he does not lose control.
He simply gains peace and understanding that a good mistress can provide. Submissives is never done out of weakness. It comes from the strength to find yourself your hybrid mistress.
Oh, love that. Oh, yeah. Hundred one thousand percent.
Did you write that recently? I wrote that I wrote that this afternoon, actually. Oh, yes. We love an improvisational queen work.
I was in between writing and said, I’m going to pull a Harper and just write shit. You know, art it out. Yeah, I agree with that.
Not coming from weakness, though. I don’t. One being submissive is dominant to people who call themselves dominance because they’re just they’re blustering idiots and they don’t know how else to handle themselves.
And so they act like jerks and it isn’t. It’s it’s they don’t know how to handle in a positive. Yes.
I did a show on how to find a fake Dom. How to out, I think, Tom as well. Yeah, that was good.
I got a show was there. I was. Oh, and we went in, girl.
I remember we, you know, I think. I think that thinking that a submissive is weak has got to be the biggest fallacy, the biggest misconception about the whole dynamic here. I think that some people call themselves a dominant because they’re afraid to be submissive.
And they’re so-called dominance from a position of fear, which is weak. That’s weak. Yeah.
You were so afraid that somebody is going to look at you and think that you’re weak, that you bluster and you puff up and you’re like, oh, no, I’m a dominant alpha male. Yeah. Oh, no.
I’m sorry, Christian Gray, but you ain’t. Yeah. Yeah.
I literally reference. You will several like that. I feel like if my submissive is not at least as strong as I am, then how can I rely on that submissive? If I need to lean, where are you going to be? Where are you going to be? And if I have to argue and push.
I mean, that better be for playtime. Nobody wants to work that hard all the time. Oh, girl.
I’m just saying. Well, and I don’t know if we covered it yet. But one of the reasons that I wanted to go over this particular topic is because while I was looking at it, there was all these things about submissives that just sounded like smack.
Like, it was really. It’s almost content, right? Like that over the top stereotype. Well, you’re just a dirty worm with low self-esteem.
No, no. Yeah, it’s low self-esteem, bad experiences in childhood, a lack of assertiveness, just avoids conflict, emotional dependence, introversion and shyness. They try to please others at all costs, like just this very surface type of things that I really wanted to flip the conversation a little bit.
I love it. As somebody who switches who just have a submissive side to her. Fuck, yes, I disagree.
But second of all, as much as I need my mistress or my master when I’m in my submissive position, I don’t know about you. If you’re a switch out there or if you’re a submissive, you hold the power for every scene, for every cue, for everything that you’re giving permission and consent to. That’s right.
You’re dominant. And that’s a lot. And lying on your dominant to help you get into subspace.
That is fucking amazing. You know how long it took me to let go of my mind and actually let myself submit when I started to want that for myself? It was crazy. Like this some willpower.
OK, you got to let it go. You’ve got to get a lot of fucking trust. I would say for a submissive, you have to have so much trust.
And it’s scary. And for you to be able to do that, it’s just I applaud every submissive, every switch, anyone who’s ever been in a submissive position to allow. Yeah, there’s a couple of us a switch, isn’t there? Yes.
I got my hand up. Yeah, me too. I do only with extreme strong personalities.
I cannot do it with somebody that has, you know, that kind of maybe I can be dominant. I can’t do it with them. But if they are extreme guns, oh, I have no problem.
Right. Welcome, Miss Sky. We saw you pop in there.
And thank you for making us aware of prisoner. Ice guy. Good to see you.
Hello. Nice to see you all. We would love to hear your thoughts on how you feel about subs and their place in our in the BDSM dynamic and the D slash S dynamic.
Yes, I think a quality sub is always able to obey his mistress. And I also think that there’s a lot of back and forth that goes into being a good sub. I think that a keen attention to detail is one thing that I really appreciate in a good submissive.
I don’t really like to repeat myself often, but I love to make my subs repeat themselves. So giving repeats and giving things little assignments during our sessions is something that really tickles my fancy. And I think in general, what I look for in a sub is is someone who can really surrender.
I think that that is key to being a sub that I want to train repeatedly is that ability to surrender and to really just fall at my feet. I love a lot of fetish fashion. So also the ability to worship that and and be able to just kind of hook me with their devotion.
That is something that I can’t speak highly enough. If you’re a devoted submissive to a strong dominant mistress, then you’re doing exactly as you should. And that to me is just a sign or a signal that you know your place.
And yeah, I just love to be able to have that so clearly as a part of our dynamic. I love that. That was a great answer.
And when I popped in earlier, you’re talking about switching a bit. I think I appreciate a dominant woman who can switch when when that opportunity arises. But as far as submissives go, I really want my subs to be fully submissive.
I don’t like any kind of back and forth or any sort of challenge when I’m dominating them. Because to me, again, when you can show your devotion and your surrender and your commitment to being submissive, it doesn’t involve challenging your mistress in any other way than, you know, maybe giving a little cue into something that you’re looking for. But other than that, I think that knowing your place and being able to take direction and instruction without any unnecessary feedback is really key.
Yeah. Agreed. Absolutely.
Well, ladies, I want to just kind of introduce, you know, the question of what are some of the benefits for having a submissive partner? Just open ended. Anybody jump right in. Oh, I think that list is as long as anybody can care to make it.
I have benefited from the presence of submissives and their service in my life in ways that range from deliciously, savagely sexual all the way to very matter of fact, sort of clerical stuff. I did a stint for a couple of years as a board of directors for a kink club, and there was a lot to do. It was a bunch of people that needed things and stuff processed and what have you.
And if I hadn’t had the benefit of submissive natured people who wanted an outlet for service and to give to their community and help me out in particular, it would have been really hard. And then, you know, with the more fun stuff, there are some things that you just can’t do to yourself or wouldn’t do yourself. And you need a couple of extra hands for that.
And benefits of submissives include that and the very best of times. So I’m all for it. I think a submissive is super duper useful in a whole lot of different ways.
But one of the main things that I get from a submissive is the joy of being trusted. I get off on that. And, you know, it’s not to contradict anybody, but for those who don’t know what their place is, but they’ve got kind of an idea, they’ve got this idea or a fantasy or some daydream that they’ve been mulling over and kind of, God, I wish I could.
I don’t know if I want to. How would this look? And what does it work? And what’s this like? I don’t fucking know. And so the idea of having somebody who trusts you enough to bring you their uncertainty and to say, I don’t know what the hell I want.
Here is a pile of unrelated concepts. Help. Oh, my God.
Yes, please. Trust me with your mess, with your fucked up. I don’t know what the hell I want in this.
Yes. Great. Let’s work through this together.
That’s going to be so much fun. Like, love it. If you do know exactly what you want.
Okay, great. We can do that, too. Like, yes.
Okay. Yes to all of that. But if you trust me enough to bring me what you want, what you need, what you desire, what you’ve been fantasizing about, and then just put it in my hands and say, okay, I trust that you’re going to make something awesome.
Yes. Yeah. Brilliant.
I honestly think that there’s three main aspects. Trust, communication, and boundaries. You have to understand all of those together.
And you have to set them together. And once you do that, then you get to enjoy the domestic duties that you can have them do. And all of the other fun things that go along with dominating somebody and submitting.
But without those first three, you’re basically setting yourself up for failure. Yeah, they’re foundational. That’s a good point.
Absolutely agree. Couldn’t agree more. Well, so we’ve talked a little bit about some of the benefits of a submissive partner.
What are some of the surprising psychological benefits you noticed in yourself. Since embracing a femdom dynamic with a submissive piece of pill. Oh, I’ll throw in here that I am incredibly nurturing.
Like I knew that I had that in me. But to be able to do it for another person on the level that I have been doing, used to doing it for like people in my personal life for so long. It just has brought out like an additional layer.
I have an excellent sub currently that is just just love him to pieces. But he really has helped me kind of realize that like being nurturing. There’s nothing not dominant about that.
You know what I mean? It’s one of those things that I have had like a little bit of difficulty with because some people have like this very they have like a an idea about Dom’s that I just kind of feel isn’t the full picture. Right. Like some people think that like you’re supposed to be mean, you’re supposed to be harsh, you’re supposed to be hard.
Softness that comes out whenever you’re being a dom to a real to an excellent sub. And you know, I talked or I taught I talked earlier about how there was this big misconception that submissives were pathetic and inadequate and blah blah. The flip side of that, I think, is that there’s a huge misconception that mistresses or masters dominance in general are supposed to be mean and cruel and impatient and all of that.
That’s just silly. If you’ve got any of those attributes in your dynamic with your submissive, you’re again, you’re not I forget who was saying it earlier, but you’re not a genuine dominant. You’re just abusing the dynamic.
That would be me that said that. Yep. Yeah.
Yep. If it’s agreed to. Yeah.
But if it’s just your default approach that you are mean to whoever you want to take on as a submissive without checking with them first about what they’re looking for. If that’s just what you do, then that’s different. Yeah, you’re kind of just a dick at that point.
Sorry. Yeah. Truth.
And I just say, pointing to that, that’s why communication is so key in the DOM sub dynamic. If I have a sub that’s unsure about what they want, that’s one thing. That’s what I’m there for is for guidance.
And I may guide with a very firm hand, but you have to have communication to determine exactly how far you can go with your sub. You can’t just go willy nilly into punishment mode without knowing what people can handle because that’s how true psychological damage can occur. If you’re not paying attention to the cues that your sub is giving you verbal or not, there are hesitations in breath.
There are all sorts of ways you know that you are performing your duty as a good dominant by listening and communicating with your sub. And sometimes it’s hard. A lot of subs are a little bit more shy and a little bit more reticent to speak up and say, hey, this isn’t working for me.
Or, hey, you’re really hurting me emotionally or physically if you’re in person. And I think that communication is really important. Oh, yeah.
And so many subs, well, not so many, but a significant number of subs are worried that they’re not pleasing. They’re dominant if they don’t submit completely, regardless of whether it’s something that they are comfortable with or enjoy. Or they’re worried about looking weak or there’s any one of a number of reasons why they don’t speak up.
But I’ve said this before, but it is a drum that needs banging repeatedly. We need to be able to trust the submissives to make it very clear what their feelings are every step of the way. I just want to get in here.
You were asking about things that we’ve learned about ourselves. I learned, and it’s been a while now, and I’m still learning that I need aftercare. As much as it’s spoken about in the BDSM community, I found myself so many times going off by myself to reamp myself.
And I don’t think things fully connected to me, even as early as this year, until Miss Becky and Hadley had that Dawn Drop and Sub Drop podcast that they did. And I was like, that’s exactly what it is. I never had a name for it, but I learned a couple years ago that allowing my submissive to give me aftercare is a mutual thing, even.
Because I’m all about, you know, baby in your ass afterwards. Okay, that’s something I like about myself. And it’s a nurture inside of me that comes out, making sure everything’s okay.
The communication, you know, do you need a pillow? Oh, you need something to eat. And that I needed, you know, a little aftercare to come down. And allowing my submissive to step up and do that was crazy.
That’s how I knew with my sub that he was the perfect one, because he did that. That’s so sweet. I love your relationship with your subbie.
Thank you. He is wonderful. I have found confidence and self-awareness and the ability to know and understand the needs of others.
Those are all things that being dominant has brought for me. Everybody knows I was in the military. And a lot of that culture is toxic.
And I learned how not to bring that toxicity into a sub-dom relationship. I am a very big advocate for setting out narcissistic doms that just get into the relationship to be able to assert their so-called authority. Yep.
So, that’s where I have really grown as being a dom. Love that. What little… Well, actually, if you guys had to describe the perfect submissive in one sentence, from a benefit standpoint, what would it be? Willing.
They would have to be a willing, open, curious person. I was going to say victim. Well… Mutual.
Mutual victimhood. They have to be willing. You know, I might suggest something they’ve never tried before, and they may feel hesitant about it.
But you know what? Ultimately, if you want to be a submissive, you have to have that little edge of I’m willing to push past my own current comfort levels in order to grow as a person. And I will give trust kind of on credit. Like, even trust before it’s earned.
Which is, frankly, the bravest thing in the whole entire world. Right. But giving the trust to a dominant that, Okay, I trust that you know what you’re doing, and you’re good at this.
I trust you. I’ll go with it. They have to be open to new things, to themselves, to discovering things about themselves.
They have to be curious about themselves and the world and their own sexuality. That’s the perfect submissive. Willing.
That’s it. Whole thing. I would add, I would add that they also, they don’t have to know exactly the direction they want to go, but they have to have some idea of the path.
Because there are not, there’s not just one path of being submissive. There’s not just one thing. You have to have some kind of idea what you want to do, and what you want to get out of it.
I can’t read your mind. You have to be able to communicate with me, to let me know what you’re trying to get out of your submissive DOM relationship. Yes.
I’d like to add to that and say honest. Like, you have to be honest with yourself, and you need to be able to be honest with us. And you can’t be honest with us if you’re not being true and honest with yourself.
So 100%, they need to be honest. And these are all qualities that take a lot of mental fortitude. So just to loop us back to the beginning of the show, where they had this kind of, I don’t know, weak, vulnerable stance that submissive people have.
It’s really a strong thing to be submissive. I prefer strong submissive. You have to be strong.
I want to know if things go sideways, that you’re going to be helping me get us out, not me looking around for you to try to figure out how I can handle both of us. I need you strong. I need you ready.
I need you astute and smart. So I agree with you. That whole submissive equals weak doormat sort of stereotype is just, it’s maddening.
It’s certainly inaccurate. I hate it. Yeah.
I honestly believe that that’s portrayed and perpetrated by the DOMs that are narcissistic, that just want control. Ooh, yeah. Fake DOM propaganda.
Yeah. I really believe that. True.
Because every true DOM I’ve ever talked to, we all want our submissives to do it out of strength, not out of weakness. Well, they say that, but all submissives are just naturally weak and they need a strong dominant to control them. That’s why you should feel in front of them.
That’s crap. How many submissives that have the whole world on their fucking shoulders who are doing it all every day, especially female submissives or feminizing submissives who carry so much on them and how hard it is to break that shell to let them be submissive for an hour, for two? You give me a break. Yeah.
One thing I want to, oh, I’m sorry. Go ahead. I was just going to say that the stereotype of the weak submissive is put out there by dominants who are using it as a means to manipulate and control people.
And if you’re actually dominant, you don’t got to manipulate shit. You don’t have to scream and yell. You don’t have to do any of that.
That’s right. So true. One thing I was thinking as we, as you all were speaking about like the one word that kind of describes the perfect submissive, I think committed is another good word because it has so much, admitted not only to your dom, but also to learning more about yourself as a submissive and everything that that brings to your table, because there’s so much that goes into being devoted and being of servitude and all these things and that misconception that submissive equals weak.
I mean, we’re talking about it over and over. It’s we’ve been able to see time and time again that that is just not the truth. And so many submissives have a lot of different moving parts in their lives and they have to be committed to making sure that they give space and time for that submissive side of themselves so that it can also be nurtured by their dom or by themselves or whatever that entails for them specifically.
But having a lot of commitment to this aspect of life, I think is so important when you, when you really want to have it at the forefront and you really want to be able to embrace that submissive part of yourself. Excellent, excellent feedback. I think that’s very true.
I agree. Well, ladies, what sexual or sensual benefits do you get from a deeply submissive partner that you didn’t experience before? Orgasms. Attention.
Straight to the point. Yep. Orgasmic attention.
Oh, how about that? You know, here’s one, spontaneous arousal, because that isn’t a thing that I always experience, but I have been experiencing it now with my sub. Like when he’s turned on, I find myself turned on and that usually does not happen. Same here.
Same here. Oh yeah. Love that.
That’s a great way to put it. I think that when you are doing a good job as a dominant and the arousal is apparent in your sub, it’s a feedback loop. Like I get more and more aroused, the more the increased arousal is apparent with my subs.
That can be just, it’s its own euphoria, I guess would be the best way to put it. Just knowing that you have that much control over someone else’s pleasure. It’s not just about, you know, the punishment or being strict.
Pleasure is a huge part of my enjoyment with my subs. Agreed. Reward.
It’s not always about punishment. You can’t just punish, punish, punish. You have to actually have reward too or the punishment means nothing.
Right. And then you’re right back to being a dick. Yeah.
Well, punishment for no reason whatsoever is not being a good dom. Sometimes people need maintenance, but that doesn’t mean, oh, I’m just going to be cruel all the time. Cruelty is not what it is.
It’s a strictness. It’s a firmness. It’s a agreed upon sentiment.
Expectation. Expectation. Perfect wording.
I would say it requires a whole lot of finesse to really do it well. Truly. Anybody can be a blunt swinging instrument.
But I think especially from a femdom perspective, I’m reasonably strong. My own physical self, which I love. But a lot of the submissives that I have power exchange interactions with are just quite frankly, physically larger and more imposing than I am.
And so what I have are my words and my will to persuade them that my way is a way that they should agree to participate in. It’s good to be persuasive. I’m persuaded.
I know, right? I’m in. Well, let me ask you guys this. In what ways has dominating a submissive partner helped you grow as a woman, as a leader or as a person outside of the bedroom? Oh, my God.
So many ways. Oh, God. Yes.
It’s a huge responsibility to take that into. Like it. Not to be too.
You grow up. You get real mature real fast when you realize, oh, oh, shit. I can fuck this guy up hard.
But on the one hand, it’s kind of a thrill. And on the other hand, it is a deep responsibility. And as long as you honor that and the fact that, yes, yeah, I could either ruin him or I could make him significantly better.
That’s fun. And I’m ruining him. Ruining him is the easy thing to do.
Making him significantly better is quite another story. Care, attention, time, patience, all of those. I have standing.
Yes. I was just going to say for me, it has been very affirming in my gender journey to to do all of this. It has really been helping me express how because like I tend to I try not to lean too much into binarism in my real life, but I’m finding it OK now to dip a bit more into masculinity and to kind of explore that.
And that has been something that has been that has that I felt supported in enough with my sub that I feel a lot more confident expressing it IRL outside of all this. Yeah, I love that. I agree with that fully, and I think part of how it’s helped me grow to have a submissive and be in a relationship with a submissive is that there are other aspects of life that dominants can come out in where it’s appropriate, like even like buying a car, for example.
You know, there’s a lot of things that go into that dynamic of like a male salesman who kind of thinks he can get one over on you because you’re a woman. There’s been a lot of experiences that I’ve had where I’ve had to kind of like pull out that more dominant part of myself to make sure that I’m being assertive and to make sure that I’m being taken seriously. And it’s great to have and to be in a relationship where you can practice that every day and then go out into the world around you and kind of utilize that skill and have it benefit you in larger ways, too.
It’s great. That’s true, especially as a woman, especially as a woman, trying to navigate this world. Making our voices heard can sometimes be challenging and having submissives who allow that on the regular kind of hone those skills.
It gives you confidence and ease in your power and authority because like Ms. Krista was saying, you know, you don’t have to yell. You simply, you know, you have the power and you hold within it and you just, you let that be enough. So it comes through into all of the rest of your life.
I can be at the grocery store and some dude tries to cut me off and I can just look at him and just calmly, I don’t have to say shit, it comes across. Yes. So that, that’s something that I’ve gained through.
The gift of someone else’s, the gift of someone else’s submission has brought that into my life. It’s confidence. Hey there, Ms. Sada, so sorry that we haven’t seen you and acknowledged.
Was there anything that you wanted to add to the discussion? Is she allowed to, has she been given permission to speak? I’m sorry, she hasn’t. We have not yet had the discussion. Okay.
Sorry about that. Hi there, Ms. Sada, just wanted to acknowledge you. Sorry.
Got excited there. Sorry about that. Well, she’s so pretty.
I wouldn’t know what her voice sounds like. Hey, Sada. Yeah.
I remember seeing her name in some person’s title or handle on here. So I’ve been very intrigued since then. I figured I would talk to her first before I said anything to them.
Nice. Yeah. I’m looking forward to my first call with Sada.
Aren’t we all? Yes. We all should have one. Right.
And cat. Yes. Yes.
Indeed. Let’s do a big group call. Oh.
You know, our anniversary month is coming up. Oh, you’re right. It is.
You’re right. How many years have we been doing femdom by days? It’s going to be our second anniversary, right? Yeah. Make our second anniversary.
Yeah. Oh. Speaking of.
We, for our anniversary month, mistress, Miss Harper, the headmistress of Whore School, is going to be our mistress hot seat guest. Oh. Getting excited about that.
Wonderful. Wonderful. Hot seat.
Hot seat. That’s right. You can ask me almost anything.
Let’s get some very probing and questions. It’s going to make her divulge secrets. We want intrusive questions.
Yeah. Very intrusive. Very penetrative.
We want to display. Does anyone have any last burning thoughts on the benefits of submissives that they wanted to share with the group before we close out that conversation? I have one thing to say. Without submissives, none of us would be very dominant.
Now, would we? Very true. That’s our counter. It’s a two sided coin.
We need them as much as they need us. That’s right. Absolutely.
Agreed. All right. And then.
Before we close out for the evening, are there any announcements? I know there are. Yes. I was about to say, Miss Krista, are you taking calls tonight? I am.
Well, then everybody needs to call you because it’s your last night as mistress of the month. It is up until midnight. And my announcement is directly related to that.
Tomorrow night. I am having a very special guest on my show. I am going to be passing the mistress of the month torch to our new mistress of the month for August.
And we’re just basically going to have a free for all. We’re going to talk to her about all the things that she enjoys, what she’s looking for out of being mistress of the month and things like that. It’s going to be a very, very fun show.
And this lady is very deserving and is going to be a wonderful mistress of the month. Yes, she is. Well, let’s see.
I’m going to have horse school on Sunday. We’re going to discuss the sissy pageant, bring all of your questions because, hey, guess who’s been doing a whole bunch of the organization work behind the scenes? It was me. Whatever your questions are.
And each and every one of these ladies here tonight will help all of you sissies get your flair on. Yes. So pick one, pick two, pick five, pick us all and get your flair on girls.
That’s right. Get all girly. You just need to do 30 minutes with any of the 18 sissy mistresses.
That is quite a selection. Do 30 minutes and then send in an email to support at EnchantrixEmpire.com with the date, time and name of the lady you had your 30 minutes in heaven with and you registered. You can actually do it with past the penis as long as you do it with at least three of us.
Exactly. Past the penis. Yes.
Or past the kitty or past the sissy, whatever you want to call it. Past the bouncy on the strap on. Yes.
The bouncy bounce. I love it. That offer is good until the last day of summer.
So take advantage. If you want a little help getting yourself photographed and primped. I’ve got a bunch of different levels of packages in the assignment shop.
I dropped a link. Have a look. I love that package of yours.
I’m a big fan. I feel the same way about you guys. Any other announcements? All the Femdom Fridays ladies are awesome.
I just had to announce it. Very true. Very true.
I resemble that remark. All right. Well, thank you all for listening to Femdom Fridays.
You can find us live every Friday at 9 p.m. Eastern Standard Time on the Enchantrix Empire discord server. But you must be 18 or older to join. You can listen to the replay every Saturday on your favorite podcast platform.
And this has been a fantastic Femdom Fridays. I’ve had a great time with you guys and. I’ll see you next week.
I thank you for coming. Thanks, everyone. Have a great weekend.
Bye for now. Bye.
