Harper wrote a very interesting blog, Does Your Mistress Suck Cock?, that recently kicked off an interesting conversation with a slut of mine. Is cocksucking a Dominant or submissive act? After discussing this topic (a few times) I thought that it would make a very interesting conversation for our FemDom Friday Girl Gang and devoted listeners this week!
Cocksucking From a submissive Perspective
After answering the questions that you all submitted for my last Mistress Hot Seat, I feel like you are all very much aware that I’m a size queen. I also expect my subbies, sluts, whores, pets, to all be size queens too! We’ve got standards over here, mmmkay! If a cock doesn’t meet the minimum size requirement well that dick is absofuckinglutely not getting sucked.
Of course, if a subbie is new to cocksucking then we will start cocksucking training with a small dildo. It’s super important that cock suckers learn the basics of dick worship before moving on to larger cocks. Devout cocksuckers should absolutely commit to living by the Dick Worship Commandments. Dedicate yourselves to being the best cock sucker that you can be!
Cocksucking From a Dominant Perspective
Harper’s blog begins with her recounting the many men who have asked her if she would suck their cocks. This is most definitely a personal choice and the answer will vary depending on whom you ask. For me, don’t ask. If you ask, I will laugh at you and tell you that the only cock that will be getting sucked around here is mine. If I wanted to suck your cock, you wouldn’t need to ask. But the fact that you asked lets me know that you want it and I’m not about to give you what you want. I’m going to give you what you need. Which is, a reminder of the power dynamics in this relationship.
For me, there is something so wildly sexy about stepping into a harness and sliding my hand up and down my massive strap-on. Seeing my submissive on their knees in front of me, their mouth quivering in anticipation of taking every inch of my girlcock into their mouth is enough to send me right into Domme space.
However, let’s pretend you didn’t totally lose your mind and ask me for a blowjob. Let’s say that you have been such a good, obedient submissive for me. And I have you tied around my fingers like a puppet on strings and completely at my mercy. You know, I really do love to tease the absolute fuck out of you. I would absolutely use all of the tools in my arsenal. Similar to the way I teased a hands-free orgasm from a very lucky submissive previously. By using only my words and my voice, I teasingly described the way that my tongue and my lips would feel on his throbbing member until he exploded. That is fucking powerful. And, I know for a fact that Harper along with many Dominant women have been able to do the same.
Is Cocksucking a Dominant or submissive Act?
So, is cocksucking a Dominant or submissive act? Tell me your thoughts in the comments! There is no right or wrong answer. But I do want to know why you think the way that you do, so let’s discuss it!
Soon, I will be revealing a very interesting erotic confession of my own on my blog so make sure you check that out. And don’t forget to join us this Friday at 9pm est on Discord!
Keeping you entranced and craving more until next time,
Your Sensual Cocktease Goddess Demi
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My current position, cocksucking is inherently neither Dominant or submissive, it’s highly contextual as is basically everything we do. I will sadly concede that I think currently huge swathes of people associate cocksucking with shame outwardly and publicly, despite the vast majority of dick havers being fixated, virtually feeling entitled to it behind closed doors, also coding it a femme act saddled with misogynistic and homophobic baggage that is all artifical puritanical patriarchical construct. I would rebuke multiple flavors of xtianity but it’s so much more widely promulgated than just western or abrahamic dogma.
Cocksucking can be a submissive act in one context, like a submissive on a long term cocksucking training program in devotion to and under the guidance their Domme for example. Conversely cocksucking could be a Dominant act, the giver exercising a power exchange and taking control over a very very sensitive piece of equipment for their own pleasure maybe in conjuction with orgasm control for example. Want to make it an even bigger mindfuck? Consider the scenario a submissive sucking cock for their Domme while at the same time exercising a Dominant power bottom dynamic over the submissive recipient. Two things can be true at the same time!
Two things can be true at the same time. Fuck, Ivy!!! 🥵🥵🥵 That mindfuck scenario you described is fuuuuucking hawt!!!!!!! Yes, yes, yes!!!!
Ivy, you are speaking my language! Yes, let’s deconstruct power structures and make all sorts of people squirm in lust (embarrassed or otherwise!)
Reclaim cocksucking from the prudes that think it’s a submissive femme thing to do!!!